Exploring ANR in BDSM

ANR – Adult Nursing Relationship – considered an act in Erotic Lactation – A relationship where a breastfeeding an adult partner is either the foundation or at least part of the relationship. This partnership is most popularly involving a Lactating female, but they have been some where the male is the lactating partner.

For those paraphilia fans, Breast Milk Fetishist are considered to suffer from lactophilia. Yes, today, everything can be a medical condition.

In the straight or vanilla world, a woman’s breast are either to feed a baby or sexual entice an adult. It is a taboo to used them to sexual entice and feed an adult. Most lump the ANR in with incest play, even bigger taboo. There a number of activities that fall under erotic lactating. Some fetishes in a BDSM Dynamic include Force Breastfeeding, Force Milking and Breastfeeding Reward.

Generally, an ANR begins between a nursing wife and her spouse as an act of release for a nursing woman who is still lactating after child has grown beyond nursing age. ANR as usually long-term relationships between two people, but it can a Lactating female nursing more than one if she is not in a long-term relationship. I gather it would be termed Casual Adult Nursing Relationship. In order to have a regular milk flow regular and often nursing is needed.

It is very easy to begin lactating again, once you have stopped. There are many site that list pill, but that is not needed. For those, like myself, that are not into taking a bunch of engineered medication to achieve natural results… I found this article.

There are also a number of sites, groups and blogs with more information on Adult Nursing Relationships.

Okay, so what is my position on ANR.

My first experience with ANR was before I knew there was a term. It was before I had sexual intercourse. I was seeing this guy that was crazy about my breast. I had rather large breast then as well. He would love always want to suck on my nipples. We started seeing each other shortly after my period started, so my body was going through a lot of changes which included my breast lactating. For a few years, all of our dates concluded (sometimes consisted solely) with him sucking the milk from my breast.

He knew I too afraid to actually let him penetrate me, not that the subject did not come up from time to time. Actually, my unwillingness to have sex is what ended our relationship. We were not even friends anymore, but I still felt the need to have him suck my breast aka Nurse. I only wanted him to do it. It was hard for me to get over the ending of our relationship. Of course, there were times he wanted to just Nurse and I gave in. Then we went back to hating each other, lmao.

What I did not understand was the bound he and I formed from it.

Would I engaged in an ANR, YES. Not in a BDSM Dynamic though. I find Nursing to be a very sacred thing for me.

I began looking into information on it, because I have breast worship as a fetish/kink on a profile of mine and I started receiving request. From notes asking to latch on to me as well as if I lactate would I sell them my breast milk and not for a child. More and more I have received request about being in an ANR within a BDSM Dynamic, so I needed to do some more research.

I like to be informed before making a decision. I know I am not interested in having anyone demand I nurse/milk for anyone, I am not a submissive. The type of Dominant I am in a dynamic, being touched in such a way is not something I allow or feel comfortable with. So, it is not my kink in the BDSM realm.

I have not attempted to open myself for an ANR in years, because of the bounding that happens and how I deal with it when it has been ended. With the  research and thinking back on my past relationships, I am now open to the possibility of building a relationship involving ANR. Dare, I say I miss it



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