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Yesterday

Yesterday, was the first time I have ever only had 1 visit. I wonder what that was about?

Published in: 'I said, "Self?" and myself said, "Hmmm?' on May 2, 2015 at1:55 AM Comments Off

‘I Did Not Want to Disappoint You, Mistress.’

First of all, I make it clear that I am to be address by Domina. Strike one

Strike Two and this Main Point of this Addition:

What is it in you all system that makes it okay to fall off the earth and then come back with, ‘I did not want to disappoint you, Mistress.’ Then you are surprised or disappointed that I am uninterested in your assholism.

Background Information:

I have given you the opportunity to prove yourself. So you have an assignment. I explain how important the assignment is to me. So important that I am going to help you not fuck it up.

First, you are given a month to turn in the final presentation.

Second, you are to turn in written drafts one week after the assignment is given. This is so I can be sure you are on the right track. Not even a draft, just a summary. Barely 10 sentences.

Now everyday prior you are in my inbox and sending me messages on yahoo, about your little dick and being pimped out fantasy. Everyday I remind you when the assignment is due. Even ask if you want to talk about your ideas of how you will attack it.

So on the due date you turn in the summary.

Of course, not.

Not only did you not turn it in that day, I heard nothing from you. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

So me, being who I am, I move on. I don’t send any word inquiring about what is going on anymore. Too many attention whores around here.

Three days later, you question why I did not say anything about the assignment. Did I forget about the assignment? Lmao.

Contrary to some opinions, I don’t get upset. I say what I have to say any keep it moving. Few of you behave well or long enough for me to form an attachment to you to get upset over you.

My telling of the bullshit is not me being physically upset, I am trying to help some of you avoid the same pit falls when you come my way.

After I respond with a Lmao, you then apologize for disappearing. And say,

I knew I was not going to have it ready. I thought I could do it quickly but when I sat down to start I was having trouble. I want to impress you by giving you the completed assignment. I did not want to disappoint you with not having the assignment, so I hid.

Liar

Coward

Ass

You were not worried about disappointing me. You just did not want to MAN UP. You never had any intention on doing the assignment, but you still wanted my attention to fulfill your desires, Lmao. What proof do I have? You are contacting me without what is past due. Yet, have the nerve to say you missed me. Asshole, fall off the earth. Lmao.

I am not going to spend my spare time on someone who is not a man of their word.

If I give an assignment, I want it done in the way I gave it. If I want you to be creative with my assignment, I will tell you. I am not going to keep after you for the assignment either.

This is another reason I am prejudice against taking attention whores seriously. Attention whore are those that are looking to be ‘in service’ to more than one Dom.

I may use one to get something done, but I would not officially claim them. I doubt I would even list them or acknowledge them as being in service to me. It is like borrowing a toy from someone, in my eyes.

So what happened to the slave and the assignment. I replied my time is money at this point. You want anymore of it, you need to call my Niteflirt Line. That is where I indulge fantasy talk. Now step aside.

Why I did not make Black History Assignments

First of all, my people’s historical value takes more than 28 (29) days to celebrate.

Now, to the kink/fetish of Reparations Play. I never knock another’s kink/fetish, reparations play is not mine.

I know it has become big in play among Financial Domination, but it just does not sit well with me…like many other fetishes/kinks.

While I make my limits clear, always there are those that try to use me as a toy in their fantasy. A cheap toy at that, lol.

All jokes aside, it is just not my thing.

I posted this article because I received a surprising amount of notes questioning why I don’t have anything posted to Celebrate Black History Month. I felt like a novelty store without any proper February Novelties.

In this game of getting your desires feed, I become annoyed with those that continue to think it is so easy to mold me into the toy they want to misuse. Yeah, Yeah…you say Mistress it is all about you pleasure. That is until you find out my pleasure has nothing to do with your orgasm. Lol.

I have made this clear on many occasions, there is no being that can master or bring me to better orgasm than myself. My pleasure is in your service. Your well done service. Your long-standing well done service.

Not service done at your pleasure or what your believe to be good enough to win my favor.

No the difference in wanting to service this woman’s pleasure and the pleasure of a woman like me.

How dare you call him that!

You lazy pup. How dare you belittle the service of another s-type by calling him a doormat.

Why?

Because he is man enough to actually offer his submission to a Dom.

You are an asshole. A lonely, sex greedy, kink repressed asshole that is what you are. You have no idea what strength and depth of trust true submission takes.

‘Comprehension is not a prerequisite for Cooperation’

Has not nothing to do with being a mindless follower. In the scene of the Matrix, he was submitting to the faith and trust of the council, albeit hard and frustrating.

In service, you are exercising a trust and faith in your Dom. Of course, there are going to be times you have no idea why these steps are needed and yes it will be annoying. It is the faith you have in your Dom’s direction that your pleasure is a part of the goal that you do as you are told. Now as long as you have made sure you have taken the time to make sure that your Dom is such a Dom, there should be no problems.

A well-educated s-type understands this. Knows this does not make him a doormat. But a cherished asset to their Dom. You should enhance your Dom’s Life just as much as your Dom should enhance yours. I don’t care what the relationship or dynamic, no one should have people in their lives that do not add positively to it. Every energy adds something. So if someone is not adding a positive then they are adding a negative.

You weak lazy horn ball. You have the nerve to call someone a doormat. You don’t even have the heart to say I am not looking to serve anyone, I just want you to help me get off and leave. I could respect your honesty. Instead, you pose and fake. To better your odds, you want to down play a man strong enough to be a real s-type. I’ll let you in on a little secret, a man who is strong enough to be a sub/slave is so secure with himself, your pettiness means nothing to him.

So why am I addressing it, BECAUSE I CAN! Last I checked this is my soapbox.

Did I Really Ask that MUCH

The following is a conversation I had with a sub from a site.
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the sub (I do have respect for a person’s privacy, so he will just be known as the sub)
…guess you are not interested?


11/1/2014 8:49 pm
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Me
Not interested in what?
11/2/2014 8:26 am
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the sub
…i was wondering if You might be interested in my servitude…(?)

We could talk, and You could decide if You think W/we are compatible…?
11/14/2014 6:03 pm
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Me
Well the first time you need to present is a letter of introduction.
11/16/2014 3:13 pm
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the sub
you’re making this hard, and you’re giving me homework. Supposed to be fun…

Best of luck in ur search. 
11/16/2014 7:58 pm
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Me
That is fun for me. But as usually, another man more concerned about a woman fulfilling his desires without a cares for hers.

Good luck in your search too. 
11/18/2014 8:18 am
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the sub
yeah–more like another hypocrite “femdom” who is actually looking for a doormat who just does whatever you tell him, whenever you tell him.

BDSM is (and should be) a two-way street. i’m ‘submissive’ in that i get off on You commanding me when to lick your pussy, lick & tongue your asshole, open wide for Your piss, sniff Your farts when You sit on my face–whatever. But ‘play’ is a consensual thing. It is not ‘whatever mistress wants’. (and if it IS that, to you, then you need to specify that you seek a npinion ‘slave’ and not ANY kind of partner or submissive-partner.)
11/18/2014 2:42 pm
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Me
Aww your feelings are hurt.

How is asking you to formally introduce yourself such a chore? This first correspondence I got from you was, ‘…guess you are not interested? ‘ All this you have sent, you could have sent a letter of introduction.

As you said two-way street. You want me to provide a place to get your needs met without catering to what I want. No one wants a doormat or to be used as one. You never took concern or interest in my side of the street. Everything you wrote was about what you want a Dom to do for you, nothing about the service or even play you will submit to for the Dom. Before you attempt to educate someone about the Lifestyle, make sure you know more than the person you are approaching.

You dare attempt to tell me what I am looking for, you have not had a real conversation passed telling me what YOU WANT ME TO DO TO SERVE YOU. If you wanted to be a partner that starts with getting to know a person. Meeting each other. Courting and going through a consideration process.

You presented yourself as someone who does not want to invest any energy past a Dom telling you to do what you want to do.

As usually it is not that you did not take time to get t know me but I was not willing to give you what you want without wanting something for myself.

I have given you enough time. You only here to get what you want and have your needs filled. As I said another man looking to use a woman to fill his desires.

BYE

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Now I posted the entire conversation. True is when he sent that first line, I could have just blocked him. Yet, I know how things get lost in cyberspace. But who knows that could be how he gets conversations started.

I asked for one simple thing. A letter of introduction. He had the energy to write all that other mess but not formally introduce himself.

I don’t knock how anyone enjoys themselves in the Lifestyle, well kinda. I am really not a fan of men that call themselves subs and slaves as long as they don’t have to actually serve the Dom independent of getting what the sub wants. That is annoying.

This sub spoke of being partners, but was upset to introduce himself. I know the way laziness has infected the internet, it is a shock when someone actually ask you to interact with them as a person…SMH.

It is clear he could not have read what he wrote and believed he was telling me off. He mention two-way street but only express interest in your side of the street.

Yes, I get off more on an s-type’s service more than the play. The service shows a seriousness to me, not just them getting off. When an s-type sends me a proper letter of introduction and petition of consideration, I get wet. I had an s-type clean out front of house and loved it. I can get sex anytime. It is what you do before that I love. Many of the kinks and fetishes I entertain of others are reward for their service. Hell, I don’t like when men eat me because they never do it right for me. Yet, if you have made me happy through whatever service to me and I know you get off on me telling you to orally serve me, I will do that as reward.

This Is Supposed to Be Fun…

Him – ‘But you gave me homework.’

Me – ‘That is fun to me.’

Another man looking to use a woman to satisfy his desires without satisfying hers.

I am sure I will hear from another of my male followers wanting to tell me, once again, how I have to take easy on men. Why? How is that serving me?

PUHLEASE!!!

Take this free lesson to heart.

If all you stypes are going to focus on are the few kinks or fetishes a Dom shares with you, then be prepared for disappointment.

Just because a Dom is a Sadist does not mean they live to hurt YOU. Same for Doms that are into strap on, etc. There are many Doms that greater pleasure out of your service than playing with you.

I dayum sure one of them. I put more praise and mention over a subs service to me. Service like cleaning the yard or windows from the outside. I still remember the sub that did that and had it not been for lie on his marital status, he would be my pet by now.

The gentlemen from the opening conversation, sent the usual I love your pics would love to serve you. Serve aka have sexual relations of some type with you. So I merely told him what had to do to get what he wanted from me. That took the fun out of it for him. Because all though he wanted to serve me, it was not about me at all. lol

You know if you so-called subs weren’t so lazy, you could be a Dom and tell your sub what to do to serve your desires. Just because you like to be pegged does make you a sub, no more than being a Masochist makes you a sub.

For example, you have a high paced and heavy responsibility profession. When you come home you want to relax from it a certain way. Train your sub to be that. I guess that is not easy enough either. SMH

A sub recently took me on a proper date and a posted about it. It does not matter if the response from this other was a joke or not…it was inappropriate. And I quote, ‘Nice I hope u fed him well after dinner ….MMMMM.’ I clearly posted that sub was a true gentleman the whole time and after dinner he took home giving me an appropriate gift. My response to the posting, ‘He did not cheapen it with such disrespect, which is why he has a second date coming.’

You all are only picking from a lazy narrow scope of what is fun for you solely. I say you all pick, because the one’s I approach are on the same page as me.

I take the time to get t know them and honestly see what desires they fulfill and what desires I can fill.

No crime in fair trade!

No Crime In Fair Trade

I swear I am going to create a flag with that on it.

I have not been around in a while and in checking my inbox I see that things have not changed…lol.

It seems no matter how clear I am about how things work in my realm, it is ignored. I refuse to believe their are that many intelligently challenged men on the internet or in the world. On the other hand, there is a never-ending abundance of arrogant, selfish, horny, greedy, assholes. To infinity and beyond.

Here is where I get lost, why are you bothering me?

You have no interest in fair trade, fine. My protocol for consideration/courtship too much for you, fine. No harm no foul, but keep it moving. There is nothing for you to see in my realm.

Don’t get it twisted, this is not all about money. Many of you don’t have the respect of a Woman to write a proper petition for consideration, let alone letter of introduction. You just ‘want something easy.’ You have to ‘work for it at home.’

Now how is your home Life my problem? Sounds like you need a marriage counselor not a Dom.

I swear I don’t care about how horny you are. Yes, it is a shame for whatever reason…you can not get your sexual needs met at home. Again, how is that a Dom’s problem? How is that serving my needs?

And to you subs that are looking for a Dom to pursue you,

FALL OFF THE EARTH!

Yes, in my realm, you must court me for my Dominance. Courting is way more than sending me a note telling me you have fantasize to my photos.

I am not a solicitor or chaser.

You have to give something to get something. Try breathing without exhaling and tell me how that works for you?

Cut the rants about, no one is getting your money. Hell most of you don’t have any which is why you are crying about no one getting any. Yet, you don’t want to do non-monetary service either.

Again, I say try breathing without exhaling and tell me how that works for you?

Why are you pursuing Doms that have no room in their realm for non-monetary service in the first place? Why join groups based on financial domination?

Just stop it!

There is a kink and fetish for everyone in the Lifestyle and an abundance of ways to experience and enjoy them. Fix your picker and you will find long-lasting satisfaction.

Stop running around with your dick in your hand like you have never been around women before.

Why do you think you know me better THAN ME?

Often, all to often, I meet a brand of person that thinks they understand me better than me. Normally, based on some sort limited definition of people.

Nothing is a bigger turn off than trying to put me into a box, especially when it is clear YOU want me in said box to serve your desires.

The persons that win me for the long haul are those that respect me as an individual. This does not mean someone who agrees with everything I say and do, but certain not afraid to express when they don’t agree.

One more thing I would like to add that I have mentioned before. I am not a virgin. So I am not impressed with how impressed some men are with their dick or sexual powers, lol. I had a gentleman actually say to me, I could not just have sex with him once. Everybody comes back for more. Lol. I am not everyone and you pretty much have guaranteed I will not comeback, if I even give you any.

There are many that can testify, I have no problem going without sex with someone else. I have sex when I want and how I want.

It is sad that I am constantly having to address the conversation of me and sex.

I have someone dear to me that thinks I am crazy when I say sex is overrated. When she met I had gone without sex with a man for darn near three years. She is ‘straight’ so same-sex does not count, lol.

I am certainly finding my desire for sexual relations with men dying, well falling into a hibernation. I find many men sexual appealing but I rarely feel the need to be the one having sex with them, just thought that is would nice to see them naked. As these feelings increase, I have less of a sex drive towards men.

My sex drive towards women never wavers.

Published in: 'I said, "Self?" and myself said, "Hmmm?' on September 9, 2014 at2:54 PM Comments Off

No Vacancies!

So, I have been in my head the pass few weeks about Me and the BDSM Lifestyle. It has become clear what I am looking for in an s-type male is not here for me.

Some time ago, I posted  a response to an individual that remarked my standards are too high. Keeping to my word, before I lower my standards I will leave the shelf.

I respect that there are people in the Lifestyle just to add a new level of sexual knowledge to their life.What I don’t respect is the time people attempt to rape me for.

Everything in Life is give and take. Seldom can you dictate what you will give to take what you want. My demands are more than most s-type men are strong enough to give me for my orgasm or even a chance at my heart. So I am taking my Dominance off the shelf of availability.

It would seem most, if not all the subs that were under my consideration have fallen off anyway. Which  makes this transition even easier.

I do wish I could understand what the disappearing act that subs pull. Do you really feel satisfied? I am cool with you changing your mind, but say so.

I also respect and understand even more my fellow Dommes that are strictly FinDoms or ProDoms. At least, you have something to show for the time and energy you have spent on a sub.

Could be the type of dynamic I want is out dated. I wish I could say I am not surprised to be writing this, but I don’t date for the same reason. Do people even date anymore, lol. Just have sexual situations a few times, maybe just one, then they are in a situationship.

While my Poly relationship goals are challenged, I am still new in my search any feel a higher sense of promise that I will find what I want. Hell, I thought I was close recently but some things changed at the last-minute.

I no longer want to shed the energy to be a Dom to a sub male in the way I have. I will be rethinking my position. Who knows I may revamp as a FinDom or ProDom or return to a pure Hedonist.

I am very happy with the three play partner I have in my Life. Not to mention, I have pressing things in my Life that need more of my energy and time. Things truly beneficial my happiness.

No I am not leaving the Lifestyle, it is apart of who I am. Just changing how I choose to be active in it.

 

Here We Go Again…

I have stopped hoping I will not have to address the misguided behavior and beliefs of some s-types.

Why in the HELL would I just up and surrender my orgasm to you, because you say you want to lick on me?

COURTING IS NOT DEAD!

If you don’t believe in courting/dating then you have certainly stumbled into the wrong realm.

I AM NOT A MAN-HATER, BECAUSE I AM NOT STARVING TO HAVE YOU LICK ON ME.

I love sex and am dayum good at it. I am not hard up for it. I have it when I am good and dayum ready. Female-Led Dynamic does not just mean leading you to my bed, at least not in my realm.

You want to be in a dynamic with me, then get with this program. You want someone to follow your program, go get a s-type to follow you.

It is kinda funny I am on this rant. Last week, I was having a talk with a friend and fellow Dom. She was telling me I might have to lower my standards a bit to get what I want.

My thought is if I am lowering my standards, am I really getting what I want?

I don’t want a sub looking for an easy way in. I am not looking for a sub quick to get in my bed. I have to earn you trust, so why should you not have to earn my orgasm.

The sub male that because my alpha has to be strong in every way. He has to be about investment into a process.

I am not a microwave dinner!

Are men out there that horny that taking your time is a sin. As soon as a man says, I am a sub/slave but I am not into all that protocol stuff…I turn a deaf ear. You want to have fun with time from my life, but you don’t want to earn it. PUHLEASE GET OUT OF MY SANCTUARY. DO NOT EVEN STAND DOWN THE BLOCK .

Before I will lower my standards, I will for go this whole thing and be totally single.

I have not problem with a sub/slave expressing what they are looking for, but to act surprised or even disrespectful when I tell you what you need to do to get what you are looking for from me…is absurd!

Ugh!!!!