Welcome To My Sanctuary

Welcome to my little blog space in the Kinky Blogging World.

I always find introductions are a tight rope act. Either you say

From a June 2011 Photo Shoot for Kim Mintzer Images in Philadelphia

too much or little about yourself and your blog, which means few people will visit. Here it goes…

I am Domina Kirashan. Those in my service address me as Domina Supreme Kirashan. I find Ms. Kirashan very acceptable, yet that is it. When I first entered the realm of kink/fetish/bdsm, I was known as Mistress Shanny. The change in name represents my growth in the Lifestyle.

There are plenty of people who want to claim the rights to introducing me into the Lifestyle. We all know how some folks egos make fools out of them. The fact is the person that introduced me into the Lifestyle was an old boss of mine. I will not say his name, because of all the different clauses I would not want him to lose his job, etc. It was 1998 and I was temping as a file clerk. Long story short, he would take me to lunch so he could watch me eat, lol. I was a bit uneducated then, so I did not realize the fetish I was taking part in. I started to become concerned about our interaction, because the subject of our conversations became very personal.

After I quit, I was telling an online friend about what happened. I was very confused about it all, because I actually enjoyed his attention. I was not attracted to him, just his attention. My friend, after laughing at me, spelled it out for me. She understood because she herself was a ProDomme. Thus started my walk as a ProDomme.

So to all those that want to say they are the ones that started me, you can stop spreading those ego boosting lies.

In 2001, I met ‘pig’. During my time with ‘pig’ I realized, I needed to really look deeper into this. My friend hooked me up with the late Lady Sophie. She called herself a ‘Ole School Mistress’. She taught me what she knew as well as trained me how to serve and be served.

I continued as a ProDomme, until I started a vanilla relationship. With exception of ‘pig’, I was not entertaining anything in the Lifestyle. I craved it very much. I felt it missing.

Fast forward to December 2008, I am newly single and ready. I have had a number of short-term D/s Dynamics. I still engage in activities with ‘pig’. Some may ask why have I not collared him, long story, but that is not for it and I.

So here we are December 2012 and what’s the word on me:

  1. I am a Sadist and love it. I love causing and controlling the pain of another. The high is ridiculous for me.
  2. I am a Hedonist. This does not mean it is all about sexual intercourse. I don’t have sex with my slaves or subs. I love being pleased and having things done for my pleasure.
  3. I am hardcore about the protocol I expect followed by those who serve me.
  4. I am even more hardcore about how an s-type presents themselves to me.
  5. My dominance is just as much of a gift as a s-types submission, so I don’t just give it to anyone.
  6. I am not a ProDomme anymore. Too many except me to be a prostitute instead of their Dom.
  7. I might be a FinDom, still exploring if that really fits. What woman does not like gifts. You still can not get any of my cookies, lol.
  8. I mentioned sex is a small part if a part at all in my dynamic. A s-type ask me, ‘If you don’t want money or sex, what do you want?’ I have found I get great pleasure from the control of pain and the growth that I take a s-type through.
  9. I am Queer. I adopt queer for a number of reasons, most important to this conversation, because I am 85% attracted to women, 15% attracted to others.
  10. Press pause, I realized I don’t like the threesome. Never did. I would entertain it for the man I loved. I really don’t want to mix it. When I am with a woman, I am with a woman, etc. This is why I don’t dawn bisexual anymore, because men see that and start calculating home many women they can add to the equation. Remember, I am a Hedonist.
  11. I am Polyamorous. I have realized I love being in parallel relationships with a woman and a man. Ultimately, I would like to be in a Polygamy relationship. This relationship must be able to include a bdsm dynamic.
  12. While I am not actively seeking a bdsm dynamic, I am open to suitors. Right now, I am more actively just seeking play partners, if anything.

Okay this is getting a bit long. I will write some more about me later. Hope I did not bore you into never coming back, lol.

Namaste,

Domina Kirashan

National Orgasm Day

Personally, I have celebrated my orgasm twice a day since I started masturbating as a girl. I am so in tuned with my body, I don’t even need to touch myself. No imagining I am with anyone either. My masturbation and its orgasm are all about ME! With no fucking apology.

Did You Miss Me?

I have been busy lately. A lot of changes have been going on.

Lately, I have been having conversations with the ONE man I am involved with about a lot of things including being poly. He is not my boyfriend, we have a primal relationship. There are obstacles that have kept us from actually exploring dating each other, distance being one.

He is not poly, at most he would be a kinkster. He wants to keep our options open but the reality is at this point there are potential limits. I could not agree to marry him because I know I don’t want to have to choose between the man and woman I love. Really the breaking point for him is me having a parallel relationship with someone else that he can not be sexually involved in.

I tried to explain this is not about having some side piece.  I even addressed my lover as my wife, to help him understand this would be a serious relationship. Not just someone to spice up bed activity.

I don’t normally have such a serious conversation so soon, but he has been very stern in his desire of me. I needed him to understand what all that includes, I am not into wasting anyone’s time.

We have a chemistry, even though I think he is crazy sometimes, LOL.

At the moment, he is the only man who I have a total sexual drive for. It could because of the distance but I am game to see where it goes.

I still want a girlfriend. Lol.

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Did You Miss Me?

Well I missed you all, lol.

I have started writing a non-lifestyle related work, so I have focused on that. Now that I am clear on my characters as people I can continue blogging. I have not mentioned it to many that I am writing because I don’t want any creative interference. People don’t mean to be a distraction they just want to feel creative.

I am not sure if I am going to do any creative writing that is reflective of the Lifestyle. I don’t think my type of edge can be handled by the public.

Some of you visit to see where I am in starting a new dynamic. Well there has been a major change. I have lost my desire for men sexually. It happens, once I went four years without being with a man or even thinking about one. I will always and still love my gay porn, just not interested in being intimate with a man.

I have been in denial about it building for sometime. Yet the last few times I had sex, I had to imagine being with a woman to get off. It was not my partner, it was me. Just where my head is.

Will I want to be with a man again? Don’t know.

Now how does that affect a Lifestyle dynamic? It doesn’t to in my opinion. My orgasm is not apart of my dynamics. Just means if a man wants to be in a dynamic with me, he needs to understand he will not be having sex with me. So all of you ‘I am the best oral servant ever’ s-types need not apply here.

How this will affect my blog, you will read more about me and women is all. MAYBE! I know I will still have articles reading someone the riot act.

My friends find it funny that I still get off on Gay porn but I don’t want to have sex with a man. It is my fetish is all I can say. Even funnier to them, I am not a fan of Lesbian porn. It does nothing for me.

I have closed most the profiles I had on other social sites, except for Fet and those that I use to promote my pay sites.

I am going to try to visit more often. I am sure with the acceptance if this transition, I will have plenty to share.

I hate to repeat myself but somethings just have to be revisited!

There is a difference between wanting a session with me and wanting a dynamic. Know which one you are looking for before you waste my time. Each are available but on different paths with different protocols and requirements.

There are few things a loathe more than wasted time.

I get most are here for the quick thrill. No harm no foul.

I don’t hide nor apologize for the length of my protocol to be in a dynamic with me. Being in a dynamic with me, eventually includes sexual exchange…so yes I take that seriously.

While having a session with me, the steps are much more simple…the chances of sexual exchange is slim to none.

I mean really why should I allow someone to share in my sexual orgasms that will not do things that feed my fetishes apart from theirs?

Yeah, I get it so many are desperately horny and forget they are dealing with a real person. Many just want to live out a scene from some porn they saw. Which is not a problem…the problem comes when they forget you have to give something to get something.

I find it amusing, that so many have a problem with doing any service that is not about them. Of course, missing the big picture on how doing this serves to get them what they desire.

How lazy or selfish are you that writing about yourself is unreasonable or too complicated?

I will continue to say it and mean it, you want a sexual exchange with me then my protocol is the only road to such consideration.

I find it so humorous when I receive a note telling me I WANT TOO MUCH. THEY JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN WITH ME. Which translates to me, you just want me to be your service whore.

When is writing a paragraph wanting too much? Are these cats serious?

Their definition of fun, is using me to get their release.

I am a person not some toy you pull out of your secret place when you want to spice something up for yourself.

I know this is going to sound strange, but your fantasy does nothing for me. It does not arouse me at all. First of all, I hear that all the time. There is nothing special about it to me or for me. All of it is about me playing a role in your fantasy.

Now what does turn me on, is a man taking a serious attempt presenting himself to me according to my protocol. That honestly turns me on. It shows me number one he is not all about himself and realizes what exchange is. Doing this may not do a dayum thing for him at the moment, but he understands how much closer it gets him to where he wants to be.

NOW THAT GETS ME GOING.

That to me screams a man that wants to be in service to a woman. Not just a play partner or client. He is someone worth me taking the time to make room for in my life.

SOMEONE WORTH TAKING THE CHANCE ON A SEXUAL EXCHANGE.

Did I Share? I Forgot, Forgive Me?

I have not been socializing enough in the Lifestyle for some time, just other Life situations.

It does not mean I have forgotten anyone. I know some people feel you have to ‘touch’ them everyday or you don’t care about them. That is not the case at all. I think about most people I know at least once a week.

Anyway, let’s start with the most obvious. I am Domina Kirashan, because I am officially back on the market. Also, I was tired of these Doms that don’t read sending me notes that made me embarrassed for them. Ladies, sub or not, you are allowed to have standards and protocols. Know your worth. Gentleman, every bent over ass bare or in a thong is not a woman. Read, before you comment…UGH!

Anyway, I have shaken off some baggage and am ready to consider seriously ready FEMALES for a real dynamic/relationship. Some important things to know:

Brats

So not my thing. Too much like topping from the bottom and for whatever reason interrupts my sexual attraction to a woman or man. When I feel I am being topped from the bottom, I stand still. I will not move forward, after while I will fall off.

Darn, I guess that is the most important thing to know, LMAO.

Opps, just remembered:

Bi-Sexual or Free Gender Daters

Number one, I am not looking to be an accessory in a threesome.
If we can not have our parallel relationship alongside your M/F relationship, we will end up being friends only. When I say parallel, I don’t mean when he has pissed you off…you want to spend time with me.
I have had enough being drawn into some pissing contest with a Man over a Woman we are both interested in. Just because someone can not respect boundaries. Well, I have never accepted any challenges to the pissing contest…I am not a fan of the challenge alone.
I am not a man-hater, but if your desire for man is not equal to your desire for a woman, it will not work out. It will leave you in a decision-making position. I will not tolerate that. It is not that deep for me, I have no problem volunteering to just be friends. I LOATHE BAD SOAP-OPERA DRAMA.
I have never had a problem allowing a man his delusion that he won something. Lawd knows I am on that list of women that have let a man think he knock it out of this light year to not hurt his feelings.
I am not sure what it is I am doing, but I tend to set off some sort of alarm in men…they start trying to prove that they are a man or the man. It might be I tend to destroy their threesome fantasy. I don’t want you, I want her.

Being Poly

I am poly, so having other relationships never bothers me. If we decide to be in a dynamic, then I can be the only D/s you are in. I am not going to apologize for that statement either.

My Playpartners and other relationships

While none are of a sexual nature, I am just as passionate about them. Yes, you will meet them. That normally takes place around the third or fourth date. That is if you don’t already know them. Just as I expect to meet those important to you. I don’t look for you to become besties with them but I will look to see how things fit.

Gentlemen, not mad at you all in the least.

Let the Courtship Being


So what, I like Coming to America. As a matter of fact, I am going to get a bowl of cereal (well grits and eggs) and watch it while I eat, LMAO.

One other thing, how I engage with women is very different from when I engage with men. It is best to contact me and ask a question before forming an opinion.

Yesterday was My Birthday

Thank you to all those who have shown the respect and service to say Happy Birthday to me yesterday. Of course, I am still accepting belated birthday wishes and of course gifts.

 

I took some time yesterday to do some thinking about my presence in the Lifestyle. For example, I am thinking of only accepting couples. I have some more thinking about it but it feels right. I see way to many whether telling the truth or lying saying their significant other does not understand. So I am sure some if they had a hand to hold and guidance that could be one less cheater roaming the internet.

 

I have also finished adding the new additions to my C4SLive membership site. There are things there only my members get to see. I will be adding a variety of updates every month.

 

Since I have reactivated my member’s site, I have cleaned up my clips4sale store. Only posting my most popular and newest clips there.

 

I also have a little something new going on in my Niteflirt goody bag. To keep up with you will need to follow my twitter or tumblr, those are the only places these updates will posted.

Yesterday

Yesterday, was the first time I have ever only had 1 visit. I wonder what that was about?

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I am available for sessions starting Friday, in Philadelphia and New York. You must be vetted a head of your sessions.

Sessions include:

  • Facesitting
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  • smothering
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  • keyholding services
  • cuckold play/training
  • sissification
  • cfnm
  • cbt
  • verbal humiliation
  • more.

You must complete the vetting process 100% prior to your session reservation. 50% deposit is required to book a session. No exceptions. I have special rates for sessions during May 1st through May 7th. Available for out call for select approved few.

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Birthday Wishlist Alert – Philly Cheesesteak

I swear I am such an easy woman to please. I only eat Maxx’s Cheese steaks once a year. I can’t afford the eat them more often than that, my body will kick my ass. So who is going to take me on my Maxx’s birthday date?